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Sunday, August 1, 2010

Let me free!

When college suspends one guy for fagging, makes it an issue when a girl’s texts suggest she is in a relationship (don’t wonder how they read her texts, they don’t believe in privacy!), when the warden tells me what not to wear to the girls’hostel’s mess (no exaggeration!), when people have a problem if my dad chooses to buy me a phone with a camera, and the problem gets bigger if I’m on the phone after ten and and the worst of all, when they don’t let me step out of the campus when I feel like - not for a meal, or even just a stroll, I wonder. I wonder, what the logic behind all this is. Do they think restriction leads to what they term discipline?

I’ve two things to say to them. First, Not talking to people of the opposite gender and wrapping myself in layers of clothes, doesn’t make me disciplined. If you think it does, you’ve got a lot of thinking to do, before complete comprehension. Second, restriction doesn’t help. Get creative. Try other methods.

‘Discipline’ is the word I hate the most in English. It’s the least understood word, the most misinterpreted word, yet the most used word by every random person who loves to throw around free advice. These people, who believe it’s their responsibility to enlighten us, assume a girl is undisciplined when her hair isn’t tied up, a guy lacks discipline when he has a li’l longer-than-usual length hair. And the common rule for all young people, it’s indiscipline to have head phones on or play music loud.

Leaving aside this ignorance, and moving on, even if they want a non-smoking, single young man or woman who is a tee-totaller and completely covered , restriction is the last method that will work. It’s not rules that make a person, it’s a person’s beliefs and opinions that make him/her what he/she is. Once an adult, a person should be allowed to choose what is right for him. Surely, any 18 year old deserves this autonomy. This is what learning to live one one’s own is all about, and ironically, that’s the reason why one goes to a hostel. Sadly, we are all denied this choice. Restriction only causes frustration, and prolonged frustration will only lead to burst-outs. I write this out of frustration, that’s been building up for a long time now.

Rectifying a misconception is out of question when one denies its existence. So as long as this realization doesn’t happen, I guess we will all have to toy around with the rules, and find our way out.


  1. Yes,But the warden not allowing you to do that or this is a part of his/her job.You mostly never get to see the personal side of him/her/chuck norris :D What the warden does is mostly what the college management people ask him/her to do.And the college management does everything to make the parents feel "Yaenoda paiyaan romba safe ana college la irrukan".So this is almost like a big reaction and it'll obviously take some time to change.Give it some time.It may happen.And also,all these things have happened before.even though you may not do drugs or whatever,they need to play safe to maintain the college's reputation.The college makes the students to behave in a way that is socially accepted to make itself maintain the "Nalla college" college.I don't think any college would want to hear "Yaenoda paiyaan andha collegela poi dhaan drugs pannara michan :D"
    I don't think they even care if the student is a t-totaller.They just want the parents to think like that :D I agree,discipline is an ugly thing,almost a form of dictatorship.

    Yeah,give it some time.It'll happen,probably when i get into college!

  2. sunflower! nice... :) thank you for mentioning the long hair in there :P

  3. Oh yeah I always say the same-restriction causes the same thing it is supposed to prevent. Always. That is the biggest problem. And over here it is worse I believe. Mobile gets taken away if found. Most girls actually hide their phones and stuff. Nonsense. And dress code is the worst but somewhat ok. Rightly said-"Not talking to opposite gender and covering up in layers doesn't discipline anyone" but neither does the alternative does it?

  4. Tell me if someone counters your blog post! I will kick their ass :P

  5. @suddu, yea, agreed! =)
    @aneet, :P how could i not? lol. even d headfones stuff, lol, was frm ur experienc :P
    @anirudh, =)
    @arvind, yea agreed. i m jus sayin these shudn be the criteria to judge a person.


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